Very busy day here at Sh! HQ, but we just had to give a quick shoutout for a hot new book on our shelves!

Bobby Blanchard, Lesbian Gym Teacher is a modern update on the classic lesbian pulp novel - plus the classic girls’ school tale! Bobby faces seductive married women, competitive schoolgirl athletes, a headmistress with a secret, and her own haunting past in this lighthearted novel by the author of Lois Lenz, Lesbian Secretary.

Check this and our other hot lesbian books out for hot weekend reading, ladiez…hope you all have a great weekend!

The Sh! Girlz have a great set of events lined up for this coming month, Ladiez - new artwork from celebrated artist Ava Anna Grauls, plus the return of our Introduction to Burlesque class with the lovely Miss Tempest Rose!

Ava Anna Grauls’ art exhibition

WHEN: 9th September, 6pm to 8pm

WHERE:Our Hoxton Store

HOW MUCH:Free! Gents, please bring a lady friend along for this event.

“Ava Anna Grauls started by selling her watercolour designs at Portobello market as alternative Valentine cards. The passers-by either bought a number of prints without bargaining or would walk away red-faced and confused.

‘The reactions I’ve received at the market were very unusual. People in their thirties and older would love the images and the children would look at them uninhibited. My biggest critics seemed to come from the twenty-somethings, as they would look over interested, then walk away quickly when they realised what it was they were looking at. It was a very funny experience.’

Her original paintings are very large watercolours that have been downsized and made into print collages.

‘I wanted to create the dreamlike world that is present in both Amano and Gustav’s artwork but capture a frame of people and their relations. I have spent months agonising what the facial expressions are and what the body language should be, to express the situations many people go through when their relationships evolve and grow, or break up.’

Her first print was inadvertently inspired by a chance meeting at Dragon Boy bar, Chang Mai. The bar hostess had been hostile at first but grew friendlier as the artist visited more often. Miss Grauls was intrigued by the hostess’ possessiveness around other men. This created ‘The Lovers’ and the prints that followed were invented out of talking to other people as they confessed their intimate fears and hopes about their own lovers.”

Introduction to Burlesque Class

WHEN: September 23rd, 7pm to 8:30pm

WHERE: Our Hoxton Store

HOW MUCH £20 - cost includes a weclome glass of bubbly…

The Sh! Girlz are delighted to welcome back Miss Tempest Rose, one of the UK’s top Burlesque showgirls, to come and teach you some of the secrets of the Art of Burlesque. This is a limited place ladiez-only session that will introduce you to burlesque, teach you a little about its history and modern revival, explain burlesque costuming secrets with a show and tell from Tempest Rose’s personal costume collection and will teach you how to move, shimmy and use your body like a burlesque star! The session will include a dance class, so participants are advised to bring a pair of heels they can dance in and to wear something comfy and easy to move in that makes them feel fabulous.

Tempest Rose is an international burlesque performer with a string of television appearances to her name. She performs regularly at all of London’s top venues, is a member of celebrated London troupe The Kitten Club, has performed with celebrities and will be performing at this years Burlesque Hall of Fame Weekend in Las Vegas – the biggest and most prestigious burlesque showcase in the world.

Please remember to book in advance - tickets sell very fast. Hope to see you there, ladiez!

The Sh! Girlz give you the lowdown on finger vibrators…

Lots of ladiez loooove direct finger stimulation - but why not add a buzz to your fingers? Finger vibrators are small, discreet, and can be anywhere from fluttery to super-strong - there’s a finger vibe to suit everyone!

Use a Finger Vibrator on Yourself…
If you prefer your fingers for masturbation, then adding vibration is a great way to add an extra thrill, as well as a useful tool if you take a long time to orgasm: fingers can tire during an extra long session and adding the extra buzz of a finger vibrator is likely to tip you over the edge…
- Try out a textured vibe like the Finger Fun or the Elephant Vibe for extra strimulation…
- Enjoy the super-smooth sensations of the Finger Tingler combined with some luscious lube…
- Use the Finger Tip vibe for extra control and focus…

Use a Finger Vibrator with Your Lover…

This kind of vibrator is discreet enough for sex with your lover; simply slip one onto your finger and use your fingers to explore, exactly as usual, but with the added benefit of vibration.
- The Finger Tingles is an extra-powerful vibe which is also amazingly versatile - use it for direct stimulation, or slip it on and your finger becomes the vibrator! Great for introducing a nervous partner to the fun of vibrations.
- The Fukuoko 9000 comes with three different textured sleeves and is fantastic to combine with oral sex or intercourse…
- The R-Rabbit vibe is a finger-vibe with the classic rabbit ears - fluttery and very thrilling. It’s also stretchy enough to put over a fellah’s equipment - so you get to add bunny ears to his favourite toy!

There’s lots of finger vibes to chose from, so check out our website for more info. Any questions? Email us here and we’ll provide the very best advice - Sh! style!

A little late this week - we’ve had a busy Bank Holiday here at Sh!, and lots of orders coming in, so thanks Ladiez and Gents! 

A couple of runaway favourites this weekend, though - the Hummer Vibe and the RO80mm Bullet.

The Hummer Vibe is a new design on the famous Rabbit Vibrator design, and - much to the Sh! Girlz’ surprise - has beaten the much-loved Waterproof Vibrator from the top of our best-sellers list! The Hummer Vibe has a curvey G-spot-stimulating tip, which rotates for extra pleasure, and the humming-bird clit stimulator, which hugs the clit on either side and from above, for a really thrilling sensation.

The RO80 Silver Bullet is a fantastic little bullet vibrator, ideal for direct clit stimulation. It’s the power behind the Rock Chick and the Rude Boy too - in fact the Sh! Girlz had clocked that it was a great clit vibe before RocksOff sold it seperately. We recommended ladiez to try the RO80 bullet on its own - so a few gents found that their Rude Boy’s batteries ran down really fast! Sorry fellahs!

The Sh! Girlz are also very smitten with the new bigger bullet, the RO120, which is a bigger vibe, and has five amazing speeds - but for small, stong and sexy, we still think you can’t beat the RO80!

That’s it for Monday Favourites this week, but watch this space for more!

The Sh! girlz give you the lowdown on egg and bullet vibes!

How to use one
Toys like the Waterproof Bullet Vibrator and the EZ Pleaser Vibrating Egg mirror the shape of your labia, so they can be rested externally long-ways to stimulate your lady-lips. The outer part of the vagina is often overlooked, but it is highly sensitive.
Using a vibrating egg or bullet vibrator to stimulate this area is a great way to get you very excited, before focussing on your clit!

A really powerful vibrating egg, like the Ultra Vector Egg Vibrator, is great for clitoral stimulation, especially if you have difficulty orgasming - we’ve recommended this vibrator to hundreds of pre-orgasmic women who are now orgasmic!

Many women say the best place to stimulate the clitoris is not directly on it but slightly off to one side - imagine your clitoris as a clockface, and explore the areas between 11 o’ clock and 1 o’clock. For many women, these are the magic hours!

Everyone feels things differently, but if you are trying a vibrating egg or bullet vibrator for the first time, try “approaching” your clitoris from the side, starting on the lowest vibrator setting. Explore the whole area, focusing on where it feels really good before working up to a high powered, mind-blowing crescendo….

How to hold an egg or bullet vibe
Sometimes handling a super-powerful egg/bullet can turn your fingers numb! if this happens simply nestle your toy between your lady-lips, lie back and enjoy the vibrating sensations hands-free.
If the sensation offered by your vibrating egg or bullet vibrator feels too powerful, cup the toy in the palm of your hand and enjoy subtle vibrations felt through your fingertips.

If your vibrating egg /bullet vibrator has a cable running from the bullet to the battery pack - treat it gently. Swinging any toy around by the cable will weaken the connection and eventually kill it!

As ever, if you have a question we’ve not covered here, you can always drop the Sh! Girlz a line - we’ll be very happy to help!

The Sh! girlz are very thrilled by the new Vida range!

Vida, a new manufacturer, has come up with four gorgeous designs for brand-new high-quality vibrators - the Vanta, the Urja, the Lussuria and the Zara. Made in black silicone and smooth anodized aluminium with gorgeous pink decorations, the Vida range are a sexy range of luxury vibes. They’re also rechargable, saving on batteries and on energy. Each one has a fantastic design for focussed pleasures and comes with a luxurious carrying-case - the perfect accessory!

The Vanta, vibe is a small and stylish clit vibe, with a curvy silicone tip ideal of all sorts of external stimulation. Small and sensuous, the Vanta has five sexy speeds from a gentle hum to a very intense buzz, and is a perfect travel toy.

The Urja is a more adventurous option - remote controlled for solo or partner play, the Urja is ideal for G-spot play and surprise sensations! Both the vibe and the matching remote are small and discreet - the remote can be tucked into a handbag or pocket, and used to create a secret thrill in public, or if you fancy hands-free play at home…

We’re specially smitten with the Zara, a gorgeous wand for clit or G-Spot play. We particulaly love the down-curving head, making the Zara a great vibe for G-spot play, or for ladiez who want a focussed clit-vibe with extra reach - the controls are very cute too, a single button cycles through the five gorgeous speeds..

The Lussuria is a G-spot vibe with a difference - the G-spot stimulation it offers is precise and intense, and the textured tip is great for clit play too! The long, slender neck of the vibe means it’s lovely for ladiez who like less girth, and like all the Vida vibes, it’s elegant, stylish and luxurious - the perfect plaything!

You can find the whole range in our Hoxton and Portobello stores, or on our website. Go on - treat yourself!

Dear Sh! Girlz,

I’m looking for some advice on how to talk sexy to my long-distance partner over the phone. I’d love to try it but I’m a bit nervous about sounding fake or silly! Any advice/tips gratefully received.

Thanks in advance

[Lovely Sh! Customer]

Hi there,

Talking dirty is great fun, and part of the thrill is that it feels quite taboo and out-of-bounds - but that can make it trickier to warm up to. To start with, we’d suggest practising talking dirty alone - it’s worth using an erotic book or film to get you turned on and give you a few ideas. Anna Span’s films have stars whose hot and explicit language to build the tension, and books like Best Women’s Erotica 2010 and Temptations can also give plenty of ideas. Try talking to the mirror or whispering a fantasy to your pillow - it can be a good way to get used to verbalizing desire. It can also help to write down a few phrases you find sexy and practise them.

You can also try ’sexting’ with your partner to build up your confidence. Sending hot text messages can be lots of fun, and it allows you to use sexy words and phrases without worrying about how you sound. We’d suggest sending an ordinary text first to make sure they are alone and free to text back, though - the potential for embarrassment with sexts reaching the wrong person or arriving at a bad moment is high!

For talking dirty over the phone, we’d advise making sure you won’t be disturbed, and getting in a relaxed state of mind. Have a hot bath, a nice glass of wine, or whatever helps you to feel relaxed and confident. It may sound daft, but it can also help to wear something that makes you feel good - even if your partner can’t see you, if you feel sexy, you will sound sexy. We recommend using lots of descriptive words to create the atmosphere, and reacting to what your partner says - pick up a word they use and incorporate it in the next sentence, for example.

Above all, enjoy it - it can be a great thrill to talk out a fantasy with a partner, and we’re sure you’ll find it lots of fun!

Hope all this helps - please do give us a shout with any more questions.

Love,

the Sh! Girlz

How To Introduce A Vibrator To Your Lover

At Sh!, we often get asked, ‘How do I introduce a vibe into my love life with a new partner?’ And it can be even tricker than persuading your new partner to give your flatmates/best friend/cat the benefit of the doubt. We’ve got a few top tips gleaned over the years, though…

Communication is key
As with everything - talk about it first. Introduce the idea of a vibrator away from the the bedroom but still within a warm, romantic situation - raise the subject whilst enjoying a bath or romantic meal together. We suggest using words that involve rather than alienate your lover. You don’t want them to feel you are dissatisfied with your sex life. Tiny nuances make a big difference!

“I would love it if we played with a vibrator together,” is a great way to phrase it, because it expresses how much their pleasure is central to your enjoyment.

It’s natural to feel flustered or embarrassed about raising the subject. Get close to your lover and whisper in their ear… With less voice volume and eye contact required, you’ll feel more confident. Plus they won’t even notice your rosy cheeks!

Embarrassment can cause us either to yammer or clam up completely; neither of which will help you hear your lover’s true response. Take a relaxing sip of wine and a deep breath before you sidle up to them.

The conversation might go a lot easier than you thought - with lots of fantastic couples toys, sex toys for men, and an amazing array of other erotic goodies available, they may well have tried toys before. It’s even possible they were gearing up to make the same suggestion to you!

Start small and stylish
With lovers who are new to toys, we always reccommend starting small. A Sh! Girl favourite for introducing vibes to a nervous lover is the Esprit d’Amour. It’s small and cute - we reckon it looks more like an attachment to a fancy laptop than a vibrator at first glance. But it still has an amazing and variable buzz!
Any egg vibrator or clit vibe can be a good starter toy.
A top designer or luxury vibrator could be a great choice: the dashing good looks of a luxury designer vibrator are very appealing…

If your partner’s comfortable with introducing a toy into play, be polite and let them have first go! Cover the toy up with a condom if necessary, then try the vibe on their sensitive bits…

(The best response we’ve ever heard to a first experience with a vibe, from a lovely Sh! fellah: ‘Oh! How do women ever leave the house?’)

Buy them a present…
Once you’ve discussed toys and got the go-ahead from your lover, you can always buy them a sexy surprise for their birthday, Christmas, anniversary, or ‘just because’! Once you have a fairly good idea what stimulation they like, go looking for a toy that can provide something similar - a lady who loves feather-light clit play will get on well with the R-Rabbit vibe, for example. Give us a shout for advice if you’re not sure what would make the perfect present!

…or shop together!
Buying a vibrator together can boost more than your toy box - it can open up communication and intimacy between you.
With a top selection of the best sex toys, friendly atmosphere and expert advice, a foreplay date surfing the Sh! website might be the perfect place to start your adventures in love!

HOW TO CHOOSE & USE A CLITORAL VIBRATOR

The size and shape of a clitoral vibrator is less important than the sensations it delivers.
It’s worth thinking about how much clitoral stimulation you need to become aroused or to orgasm.

For Intense Clitoral Stimulation
We recommend a high intensity clitoral vibrator like the Ultra Vector Egg Vibrator or the EZ Pleaser Vibrator. These vibrators are great for helping women achieve clitoral orgasm.

For Super-Sensitive Clits
Many women swear by the clit-pleasing bunny ears of Jessica Rabbit Vibrator as they stroke the clitoral-sides rather directly on the clit. Bunny ears are perfect if you prefer a lighter clitoral touch or, like many ladiez, find over-intense clitoral stimulation actually turns your clit off.

For a dedicated bunny-ear clit vibrator, try the Climax Rabbit Vibrator - just the ears with a super-powerful vibe attached.

For Varied Clitoral Stimulation
If you zone out from lots of samey clit stimulation, we recommend a high-tech clitoral vibrator like L’Amour Vibrating Love Egg or the Je Joue Sasi Vibrator to keep you and your clit surprised and, we hope, delighted!
The L’Amour Vibe offers ten pulsating and escalating sensations, plus ten speeds, so there’s lots of variety - PLUS, you can switch the L’Amour vibe to a random program and let it surprise you even more. The Je Joue Sasi has a repertoire of fifty moves, a range of vibrations, and, best of all, it can store your five favourite moves and repeat them at the touch of a button!

You can also rev up the anticipation by playing with a remote controlled vibe - that will certainly keep your clitoris alert!

There’s lots more clit vibes to check out on our website - and please do contact us if you have any questions about clit vibes.

Dear Sh! Girlz,

My boyfriend and I are looking for something to spice up our sex life - currently fun but a bit ‘ordinary’.

We’re looking for something fun to start us off - toys, games or similar? We’ll give anything within reason a try, but we’re after something not too ‘hard-core’.

Regards,

[Lovely Sh! Customer]

Hi there,

Thanks so much for getting in touch. There’s a few things we can suggest to add a little spice to your sex life.

For a start, introducing a couple-friendly vibe into play can be lots of fun for both partners. We’d recommend the EZ Pleaser, which is an egg vibrator great for clit play, or the Esprit d’Amour, which has a very strong vibe and is also very good if you want to introduce your husband to vibes. (Many gents have a few reservations about vibrators, but with a small vibe, it’s possible to use it on his sensitive areas too, and he’ll begin to see what all the fuss is about! )

We can also recommend some sexy games as a very good way to liven things up. There’s lots of good games on our website, ranging from IOU Hot Sex, a very simple card game, to Monogamy, a detailed board game that alows you to enact your sexual fantasies together. There’s also romantic box sets such as 52 Weeks of Naughty Nights, which gives you plenty of ideas for fun things to do together!

We’d also suggest maybe trying out massage oil as a way to reconnect with your partner. Massage is very sensuous and relaxing, and is fantastic for long intimate sessions together. We’d suggest trying a luxurious massage oil like Geisha Harmony or Lush Touch. (Please note, though - oils can break down latex, so it’s important to keep massage oil well away from condoms during a session).

It’s always fun to try new things, and we recommend a little bit of tie-and-tease play if that’s something you’d be interested in trying. Try out some simple handcuffs and maybe a blindfold, and take turns to tease and be teased. Ostrich feathers are great for teasing with, too!

Hope this helps - please give us a shout if you have any more questions.

Love,

the Sh! Girlz